Self-Love : It’s not a taboo

Self-Love was considered as a taboo few years ago, people who tried to put their self-esteem before anyone was labelled as selfish. They still are but the percentage has fortunately reduced since 2016.


Self-love doesn’t mean to have an ego or attitude, it means to be kind to your own self, take yourself as a priority and know your worth.

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and make your happiness priority, it’s necessary. ” – Mandy Hale

I think it’s so important to love yourself before loving another person. It’s not worth it to love someone so deeply that you start losing your self-respect. Nothing in this world is more important to you than yourself, not a single thing matters if you are satisfied with yourself.


Self-love doesn’t come overnight, it is a time taking process because you have to learn, observe and try to fall in love with each and every insecurity that you have. Everyone has insecurities, from small to big because no one in this world is perfect. God has blessed us with our own beautiful, unique and diverse identities. We all have the different body type, different face structures, skin colours, nose shape etc. If you have a sharp nose it doesn’t make you better than the one with a round nose. If you have a white skin colour, it doesn’t give you a consent to consider other skin colours inferior.


Today there are so many influencers on social media showcasing perfect life, flawless bodies and picture-perfect hair and makeup. To some extent, this doesn’t affect a group of people while the majority suffers from complex and insecurities. These young girls try to make themselves look beautiful and flawless like the ones they see on social media, they try to camouflage their true selves to display someone they don’t actually wish to be. They do it because society demands perfection from them. Our society has raised the standards of beauty to a level where no one feels comfortable in their own skins.


Models starve themselves to death, to maintain that zero size in order to meet their financial ends. Society demands perfection but why do we forget that we are the ones making a society. Who is the society? You are. Do not let the negativity of a few people get to you and make decisions that may prove fatal for you because, at the end of the day, you would still have to face yourself and ask


“Was it worth it?”


On the positive note, today many well-known people are taking a stand against the beauty standards of our community. They are promoting self-love by showcasing their bodies in a raw, unedited and unique way. Some of them are Ashley Graham, Demi Lovato, Winnie, Chrissy Teigen and many more. Zendaya took a stand against the photoshop, showcasing the before and after, Camila Mendes and Lily Reinhart, also publicly slammed the photoshop/editing in magazines.


Priyanka Chopra (former Miss World 2000) objectified the photoshop used on her in the magazine cover, posting a picture of herself without any filters beside the one from the cover of the magazine. All these profiles are taking advantage of their social status by giving an awareness that it’s okay to have stretch marks, it’s okay to have a thick body, it’s okay not to have a perfectly flat stomach, it’s okay to have discolouration and it’s okay to not be perfect.


“It’s okay not to be perfect, your imperfections are what makes YOU and at the end of the day people like real people, flaws and all. At least I do ”

Camila Cabello


Self-love is not a taboo, it shouldn’t be. Loving yourself, caring for yourself and putting yourself above others is not a selfish thing to do if it’s done in a positive way. You have every right to objectify things, you have every right to speak up for yourself and you have every right to do things that will make you happy. It’s you, it was and it will always be you who has the ability to turn a bad day into a good one. It’s you who is going to lift herself up from the bathroom floor, wipe her tears and go back make everything right.


Therefore, distance yourself from people who try to put you down, who jeopardise your self-worth because it’s their joy. You are not born to please people, you don’t have to make everyone happy by putting up a facade that makes you feel disgusted by your own self because it’s not worth it. The things that matter is how you embrace your flaws, your insecurities and your hesitance. Because insecurities can be beautiful if they are showing off with confidence and love.


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